In a world of 'shoulds' and 'musts' choice seems unattainable. Accepting 'NO' is saying 'YES' to greater freedom, time, and pleasure.

Have you ever considered that the tiniest word
'NO'
can change everything?

This book is a manifesto for anyone who wants autonomy. Explore these pages to learn about saying 'NO' and how 'YES' may not always be your best option.

Paperback $39.95 +p&h

Postage and handling:

+  $ 9.95 Aust/NZ delivery
+ $19.95 Worldwide delivery

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International Bookstores

The below international online bookstores are now stocking and taking orders for the paperback and all eBook formats, for your convenience. 



Volume Purchases 

If you purchase a quantity of the books—say, ten or more—it serves as a great motivational tool, business reminder, and gift for your colleagues. For enquiries regarding bulk orders, send me an email at df@tickthoseboxes.com.au

I will get back to you right away with a great discount for your organisation.

'No' the book cover

NO
Building a Life of Choice
Without Obligation

Available Now

- STOP -
Putting your plans and dreams on hold

- IT'S TIME TO FOCUS -
On your priorities,
not others

- ELIMINATE DISTRACTIONS -
No more excuses and people-pleasing

Darren with his arms crossed and is smiling

Darren Finkelstein is
The Accountability Guy®

A formidable international accountability coach, business advisor, mentor, and author/speaker, fostering development and measurable results in entrepreneurship, leadership, and accountability.

Darren’s tale is one of perseverance, self-reinvention, and resilience.

In compelling execution, Darren has inspired high-achieving individuals and teams from Australia and New Zealand to Latin America, Europe, Asia, the UK, and the US to embrace accountability—your superpower.

The foundation of Darren’s methodology and teachings is based around his bestselling book, “The Accountability Advantage – Play your best game,” and his newest book,  ‘NO’ – Building a life of choice without obligation.

The heart of Darren’s international focus is to Get Clarity and know what to do first. Get Started, know what to do next, and Get Sh*t Done knowing what to do more of. Darren works with high-performing individuals and teams to help them realise their wildest dreams and smash their goals like glass pinatas!

Darren fervently “walks the talk,” as demonstrated by his 10-year tenure as “Manager of Commercial Markets” at Apple Australia during the Steve Jobs revolution. As well as his 2016 business sale and successful exit from multiple lifestyle businesses, with a business partner.

  • It’s possible you’re already living a life of choice and duty without realising it,
  • Saying ‘NO’ is the ultimate expression of personal freedom, responsibility, and liberation
  • It’s about putting your health, aspirations, and ambitions over external pressures.
Available Now

This book will help you understand the importance of saying ‘NO’. Accepting ‘NO’ is saying ‘YES’ to greater freedom, time, and pleasure.

Greetings from your new beginning, which begins with ‘NO’. 

Paperback $39.95 +p&h

Postage and handling:

+  $ 9.95 Aust/NZ delivery
+ $19.95 Worldwide delivery

eBook (.pdf) $9.95

Download the eBook (.pdf) version from here right now.

International Bookstores

The below international online bookstores are now stocking and taking orders for the paperback and all eBook formats, for your convenience. 

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Volume Purchases 

If you purchase a quantity of the books—say, ten or more—it serves as a great motivational tool, business reminder, and gift for your colleagues. For enquiries regarding bulk orders, send me an email at df@tickthoseboxes.com.au

I will get back to you right away with a great discount for your organisation.

Discover the freedom of choice
start with ‘NO’
“The Best Accountability Coach in the Game”
Andrew Griffiths – International Bestselling Author and Speaker


“One of the World’s Leading Accountability Coaches”

Callum Laing – Investor & Entrepreneur, Veblen Director Programme
Darren Finkelstein name written in signature style text

How does this book
NO - Building a life of choice without obligation work?

My 10-Step framework, outlines how to make those difficult decision easy.

“Boundaries by Design” will help you to consciously choose ‘NO’ with respect and empathy.

It starts moving you and your business forward towards achieving your GOALS.

Here’s what you’ll discover:

Learning to say 'NO' changed my life

Embracing 'NO'

  • ‘Yeah-Nah’
  • The difficulties of saying ‘NO’
  • When I should have said ‘NO’
  • Why is ‘NO’ so powerful?
  • ‘NO’ is not a word of rejection but a statement of prioritisation
  • Delivering ‘NO’ with respect and empathy
Chapter 1

PART I: The psychology and history of 'NO'

  • Rationales for saying ‘NO’
  • Frequently held beliefs about ‘NO’
  • ‘NO’ can be a positive and open-minded response
  • Protecting your personal resources
  • Managing risk
  • The generation gap
  • Building autonomy and self-determination:
    – Taylor Swift
  • The power of ‘NO’ in scientific focus and goal clarity:
    – Professor Selma Saidi, PhD.
Chapter 2

'NO' through the ages

  • The art of a tactful refusal
  • Eastern and western perspectives
  • Indigenous and tribal perspectives
  • Spiritual and religious perspectives
  • Historical examples of saying ‘NO’
  • Modern society’s emphasis on assertiveness
  • Generational attitudes to ‘NO’
Chapter 3

PART II: Learning to say 'NO' to transform your own life

  • Defining boundaries
  • Understanding boundaries
  • The psychology of setting boundaries
  • Overcoming fears
  • Acknowledging and respecting your own boundaries
  • ‘NO’ as a powerful boundary setter
Chapter 4

Saying ‘NO’ in personal relationships

  • Saying ‘NO’ can be transformative
  • Finding a balance between empathy and assertiveness
  • I should have said ‘NO’
  • Consenting adults
  • Effective communication without guilt
Chapter 5

Saying ‘NO’ at work

  • Finding a balance between aggression and assertiveness
  • Agreeing to responsibilities
  • Establishing mutual respect and trust
  • Listening to others
  • Being dependable and consistent
  • Being receptive to feedback
  • A clever and straightforward method for saying ‘NO’
  • A ‘NO’ committee
Chapter 6

Saying 'NO' in your daily life

  • Workable techniques for daily activities
  • Affirmations and setting realistic objectives
  • Your point of view is legitimate
  • Creating a network of support
  • Saying ‘NO’ becomes a deliberate instrument for growth:
    – Andrew Griffiths, International Bestselling Author and Global Speaker
Chapter 7

Changing your own behaviour with 'NO'

  • Matching your daily decisions with your long-term goals
  • Saying ‘NO’ to conspicuous consumption
  • Saying ‘NO’ to unhealthy habits
  • Saying ‘NO’ to technology overwhelm
  • Saying ‘NO’ to strengthen your relationships
  • Saying ‘NO’ to boost accountability
  • The clarity that comes with ‘NO’
Chapter 8

How to say 'NO': My 10-step framework

My 10-step framework called ‘Boundaries by design’

  • Step 1: Identify your core values
  • Step 2: Recognise your limits
  • Step 3: Evaluate every request (it’s checklist time)
  • Step 4: Practice ‘polite refusals’
  • Step 5: Propose alternatives when possible
  • Step 6: Give yourself time to decide
  • Step 7: Communicate your decision clearly
  • Step 8: Remain firm and respectful
  • Step 9: Avoid over-justification
  • Step 10: Reflect and adjust


Using the framework
– The story behind the checklists

Chapter 9

101 reasons why saying 'NO' is so effective

  • My list of 101 reasons
Let's bring it all together

Final thoughts

  • Don’t forget my 10-step framework
  • Work with me

Three more reasons to read this book:

  1. Discover a step-by-step guide to defining your limits using my ‘Boundaries by Design’ framework. 
  2. Enhance relationships by saying ‘NO’ with respect and empathy.
  3. Create plans to prioritise personal and business goals using my checklists.
“MASTER THE ART OF ‘NO’ AND I GUARANTEE YOU WILL FORGE THE MOST EXTRAORDINARY LIFE.”
ANDREW GRIFFITHS – INTERNATIONAL BESTSELLING AUTHOR
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BUY THE BOOK NOW

Waste no more time, your clock is ticking. Imagine turning mandatory tasks into empowering choices. Imagine if ‘NO’ could lead you to abundance and freedom.
This book will show you that ‘NO’ can open the door to a life you never thought possible.
So why wait?

Available Now

Paperback $39.95 +p&h

Postage and handling:

+  $ 9.95 Aust/NZ delivery
+ $19.95 Worldwide delivery

eBook (.pdf) $9.95

Download the eBook (.pdf) version from here right now.

International Bookstores

The below international online bookstores are now stocking and taking orders for the paperback and all eBook formats, for your convenience. 


Volume
 Purchases 

If you purchase a quantity of the books—say, ten or more—it serves as a great motivational tool, business reminder, and gift for your colleagues. For enquiries regarding bulk orders, send me an email at df@tickthoseboxes.com.au

I will get back to you right away with a great discount for your organisation.