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How Do You Learn To Take Responsibility For Your Actions?

By Darren Finkelstein
By Darren Finkelstein

The Accountability Guy®

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The workplace of today may be more linked than ever. Your actions could have an impact on your coworkers, teammates, superiors, clients, and other people in addition to your personal productivity, performance, and success. You must therefore assume responsible for your deeds and uphold a high standard of personal accountability, even in the face of failure.


Is doing it simple? Obviously not.


Will it be worth it? Absolutely.


The definition of taking responsibility for your actions, real-world instances, and important variables influencing this possibility are all covered in the following article.

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Take Responsibility For Your Thoughts And Actions

Because this is the framework of all human experience, accepting responsibility for your life also means accepting responsibility for your faculties of thought, feeling, speech, and deed. With your thoughts, feelings, words, and deeds, you shape the course of your life.


When you acknowledge that the thoughts you have are yours and that they originate in your mind, you are taking responsibility. Your thoughts have an impact on how you physically feel. Your mouth and voice are where you utter the words. You are responsible for the decisions you make.


This means that no one has the power to influence your thoughts, feelings, words, or actions. You are the button maker, so nobody can push your buttons!

Make Time Your Friend

The fundamental rule is that if you see time as your enemy or an excuse, it becomes simple to place blame and absolve yourself of responsibility.

You may only accept complete responsibility for your actions when you see time as your friend and ally who is on your side and assisting you in achieving your goals.

You must adopt a fresh, constructive perspective while examining your interaction with time. You must first separate yourself from the perspective on time that society has given you. 

No Making Excuses

Making justifications for your decisions in life or for what you believe you have accomplished—and what you haven’t—fuels cognitive bias. Making excuses prevents you from having the chance to grow from your mistakes.

After all, it’s not your fault if something bad happens. There is always another thing. There is no room for growth when there is no personal accountability. Without ever moving on, you’ll be mired in the same place whining and obsessing on the negative.

You may put an end to negativity when you accept responsibility for your life and stop making excuses. You come to the realization that external events are meaningless. Your deeds are the only thing that truly matters.

Accept Negative Emotions And Embrace Them

You will inevitably encounter unfavorable feelings throughout your life. Accepting responsibility for your actions might make you feel uneasy, afraid, and ashamed. Although accepting these feelings is tough, doing so is necessary if you want to go on.

By engaging in mindfulness exercises, you can learn to sit with uncomfortable feelings rather than attempting to avoid them. Avoiding unpleasant feelings and suffering simply serves to prolong it over time, making it more challenging to accept responsibility for our actions and make progress.

Live In The Present

The moment is life. There is only this one instant left. There is only now, this instant; the past is gone, the future is unknowable. To change the past and build the future you want, accept responsibility for this now and make the most of it. This is what Paulo Coelho stated in his biography.

Be in charge of your ideas, and if they don’t help you achieve your goals in life, stop thinking the same 60 000 things you did yesterday.

Every instant, choose your ideas wisely, and when you become present, you become aware of your thoughts and emotions. You can then stop thinking about things that aren’t helpful to you.

Use Self Love

Although the final step may seem paradoxical, it is crucial to accept responsibility for your actions. Spend some time expressing gratitude to yourself.

You know, it’s a lot of strain to accept responsibility for all of your time, how it’s spent, and everything you do or don’t achieve. You won’t always do every task flawlessly. Therefore, if you begin to tell yourself continuously negative things like “I’m not performing good enough,” you will lose motivation and excuses will start to rule your life.

Positive reinforcement is crucial for changing your mind’s programming from one that is full of justifications to one that is full of inspiration and answers.

The Takeaway

Although it is rarely simple, accepting responsibility for your actions is worthwhile. The advantages of accepting responsibility exceed the drawbacks. There will always be outside forces that we cannot control, mistakes will be made, and difficult circumstances are unavoidable. It is crucial how we handle them that matters.